“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.” ― Brené Brown
Setting healthy boundaries isn't easy. It may be uncomfortable at some points; telling others what you need and want might come out as self-centered, confrontational, or even disrespectful. How can we maintain healthy boundaries politely? Pause for a moment and think about it.
Boundaries allow us to be respected in different ways. Respecting our boundaries allows us to care for ourselves, create trust, avoid burnout, and give our relationships greater purpose and honesty. So why should we establish boundaries?
For Peace of Mind
Setting boundaries with people is challenging and never easy. However, with persistence, boundaries will help you begin to make improvements in your life that will lead to healthier connections and a happier you. They're essential for self-care and prioritizing yourself. Contemplate and if you have unhealthy boundaries in place, then consider creating healthier alternatives.
Remember, it’s okay to say no.
When discussing your opinions and feelings with someone else, be genuine and polite. It's acceptable to think a few moments before and after the discussion to gather your thoughts. You can say “NO” if you want to. Saying “no” isn't a negative thing; it's a form of self-care, especially when done with good intentions and respect.
Protect Your Energy
The truth is, you feel drained because you let somebody or something absorb all of your healthy energy. To avoid draining your energy, you must set healthy boundaries. Protect your energy at all costs.
You will feel more in control of your life when you set healthy boundaries. Some people may feel uncomfortable about it, but you may successfully handle it if you want to. For many, setting clear and personal boundaries can be a challenge, so remember to be kind and gentle with yourself as you journey through this transition to a new and healthier mindset.